So your wedding is coming up soon, that’s exciting! Your best friends and parents are nervous, but itching to get their speeches written for the reception. Google is a good place to start for looking at hw to write a wedding speech, but a lot of it can be cheesy or quite overused.

After 8 years of filming weddings and hearing many speeches, I’ve come up with a way to to make your speeches interesting, authentic, and also have them be able to add narrative to your wedding film.

1 || Do Not “Wing It”

I can’t emphasize this enough! Although your speaker may have a good idea of what they’ll say, it usually never comes out quite as smoothly as they’d like. It’s also just not ideal for your wedding film if the speeches have an “um” and “uh” every couple seconds. That makes editing very very tricky! Always write them out, everyone will thank you!

2 || Include How The Couple Met

Everyone loves hearing how a newlywed couple met! This is usually when the listeners can start to cry (including me!). It’s also a very good for adding to your wedding film. It gives the people who weren’t able to be at the wedding an amazing way of still hearing about how the couple met.

3 || Include What The Couple First Thought About Each Other When They Met

If the wedding party or parents know what the bride or groom first thought of each other, this can be either heart warming or hilarious! Either way, your guests will have a ball, and it will add good story to your film!

4 || How The Speaker Knew The Couple Were Perfect For Each Other

Again, this can be hilarious or heart warming! Your guests will also love to hear this.

5 || Avoid Overused Anecdotes & Stories

There are some speech examples that show up straight away on Google. Some of them might include:“This is the last time you’ll have the upper hand” or “You’re so handsome, humble, and…I can’t read your handwriting”. If these jokes fit your personality, go for it! Otherwise, they are slightly overused.

6 || The Parents First Impressions Of Their Child’s Significant Other

This could also be an opportunity to sneak a little humour into a speech! The guests who are parents will find this especially relatable.

7 || Don’t Use Your Phone To Read Off Of

This one might be controversial, but if your reception venue is darker and more moody, having a phone screen light up the speakers will make them look out of place. Usually videographers and photographers have their own lighting that they bring, and any extra bright lights can throw that off. So write your speeches down on paper if possible.

8 || Any Funny Story About Either The Couple Or Them Individually

Now, try not to tread into embarrassing stories, but any funny story about the couple is GOLD!